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Monday, March 29, 2010
Rejection is Protection
I read that little adage on a friend's FB page; it was in reference to dating.
For me, it has an even broader application.
We didn't get the house.
There were 8 people bidding on a house that was priced aggressively (low) which inspired a sharktastic bidding frenzy. We came to the table late, and were able to make a strong bid. But I'm guessing there was Miss Movie Star or Mr. Texas S. Moneybags who thew buckets of cold hard cash their way.
Rejection ... is protection. This wasn't our home. Our house is still out there.I know some people prefer to see the Universe as chaotic, and more power to them if this makes them happy. But this isn't what makes me happy. So I choose to let my imagination spin in a positive direction.
There could be all sorts of hidden things about that house that would not be good for us. Maybe someone else is more capable of dealing with it.
Who know, the person/couple who got it... may only have 2 years left together, so it will be spent in a wonderful place together.
There could be bad (read: aggressively conservative) neighbors.
So many reasons this house should be someone else's. It's not about fate. It's about choices and values. It's about where we put our intention.
Rejection is protection.
B worried what if a rich person comes along and out-bids us again with the next house? And I said that the positive what if's are just as likely as the negative what if's, so we shouldn't torture ourselves with ideas that aren't real yet. Focus on the positive.
We fell in love with what we thought was the perfect house. And to know that we can have that kind of experience out there is so encouraging. It actually lifts my spirits. It means we'll find it. We're closer now!
We certainly didn't imagine the house we just bid on. Just as we can't truly imagine the reasons it wasn't the right house for us. I can choose to explain away the rhyme and reason, and chalk it up to disquieting randomness, or I can choose to see meaning. Finding meaning keeps my attitude and gratitude in check, and it fuels my energy level and focus. So I choose see meaning.
I was talking to a dear friend about how far away that house was; I wondered if some friends would make less effort to see us because we were further out. She reminded me that maybe that sort of detail would be meant to help us. Those who truly care, won't mind, and will make the effort, and those who don't care as much, won't bother, and will make it easier for us to spend our time more wisely. I began to understand that this little philosophy can apply to so many areas of our lives. Rejection is protection.
Sometimes it's hard to see rejection as a silver lining. We get so attached to what we think is best for us. But I often understand why things didn't work out the way I wanted them to.
It's entirely possible I may be posting certain interesting photos this Thursday! The adventures (and my Thursday House & Home posts) continue!
~Shephard :)
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