Monday, June 04, 2012
Not Filling in the Blanks
Back in January, I was thinking a lot about the way our relationships fall in our lives, where we place them for the good of both parties actually. (If you didn't read The Nine Rings of Relationship, you can do so *here.* ) But as I was talking to my friend Wendy today, I realized the post didn't really address how life and the other people make their own ring-hopping adjustments.
*The Nine Rings of Relationships*
Sometimes the choices others make will move them from one ring of your life to another. This is the Universe's way of adjusting our rings of priority. And we can find ourselves with a feeling of unrest and anxiety about these social changes, rather than seeing their value.
So my revelation is that I should savor and appreciate changes. It's only a void if I focus on what is being lost.
Of course, I say this assuming that you are on that page with me, knowing that life is talking to us, and there's always something we can learn from the changes and challenges. If you're not on that page, I suggest you enjoy this detour *here.*
In one of umpteen queries I've been sending out to agents this month, I was recently asked to fill in the blank. The agent asked me: What is your favorite sentence from your novel?
Good googlie-mooglie. My novel is 392 pages long. At first, I was a bit panicked. How am I supposed to pick the best-crafted sentence? I didn't bother. Instead, I quickly found one that had great meaning for me:
"The trick is to address the void, and not be distracted by things that might fill it."
A week later, I realize the synchronicity of having chosen that sentence.
Being a social person, my impulse has always been to fill every hole left by those exiting (or ejected) from my life, by every circumstance that changes and leaves a void. For months now, I've been trying to reprogram these impulses, and succeeding fairly well. Lately, I found myself responding to the void as if something is missing. But that vacancy is there for a reason. It has meaning and value.
I realize, nothing needs to be filled.
I'm going to be here now, and explore the void, instead of filling it.
I'll just let The Universe fill it.
I can find value in whatever this is supposed to be for me.
Because... I'd rather feel peace and gratitude in my life for what is, then focus on what isn't. Now, the trick is... not to be distracted by things that try to fill the void.
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